Matthew 12:33 "Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit. 34You brood of vipers, how can you who are evil say anything good? For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. 35The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him. 36But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. 37For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned."
You can judge a man or woman by the things that manifest in their lives! In other words, what you see happening in their lives, is a reflection of the state of their inside. Someone who always has bad things happen, more than likely isn't pretty inside.
In order to be a good person, you have to be good inside, and that means making changes in how you think and react to situations. Stop thinking evil of people and don't be offended when they continaully do you evil, but at the same time don't let them walk all over you. There is no sin in standing up for yourself, but you do not destroy the person you standing up against.
Let your words be good and encouraging, ones that are positive, because one day you will be judged on every careless word you've spoken. A careless word is one that is pointless, sarcastic, ugly, evil, vile, and negative. If it dosn't uplift someone or something, then it's careless.
Make yourself good and speak good things. That is what the Lord was saying to me today.